First impressions, like the start and end to a given day, are one time events. We don’t get do-overs. So yes, your initial moments with someone are important. Besides, how can I argue with Will Rogers?
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.“
Will Rogers
Will, born to a Cherokee family in what is now Oklahoma, made history. A writer, with political savvy wit and humor, was one of the highest paid film stars in his time. His words, timeless. He made people laugh as a comedian. He made people think, even without them realizing it.
How long our impressions last, or are validated, are determined by two parties. You and the other person.
You and Your First Impression with Others
I’ve made and will continue to make good, great and terrible first impressions. So will you.
When we make great first impressions, the pressure is on. Every interaction, validates who we are. Does that mean we need to walk on eggshells? Of course not.
If we engage with others sincerely, honestly and with positive intent (even when it’s tough), that is remembered long after the first impression.
After a bad first impression, well, there’s work to be done. While acknowledging the error is important – that in itself is short lived. Bad impressions are overcome the same way as keeping a good first impression. Time. Consistency. Integrity. Awareness. Intent.
The Recipient of Your First Impressions
Just as you give first impressions, you experience them from others. The co-worker, boss, friend, neighbor who made the bad call on their first meeting with you. They’re not bad, it was a bad moment.
As the receiver, you have three choices.
- Get over it and move on . You’re not perfect either, but they’re not on your list.
- Move forward and engage, as you’ve been there too.
- Or, hold on to it because you’ve made up your mind that no matter what, you’re just not going to get past it.
How we respond as receivers says more than we realize. Today, people’s tolerance is short, bad behaviors are applauded and ‘tough actions’ receive more visibility than kindness.
If we can’t forgive others for a minor error in action or mistake judgement, how can you expect the same?
If you can’t forgive yourself for a mishap, unintentional impression, how can you expect others too?
Our relationships begin with a first impression. Our best relationships don’t end. They morph, change with time, action, experiences. The best ones bring smiles, memory and personal satisfaction.
Thank you Will Rogers. As, in your epitaph, “You never met a man, you didn’t like.” I just know you liked those long after the bad first impression.
For more Monday Motivations: Aperture and Light Quotes
For books and writings on Will Rogers: Will Rogers Books (Amazon)
